101 Kinky Things About Me

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These posts have been shared around Facebook a lot lately where someone shares a few things about themselves and then anyone who Likes the post gets tagged to answer some of their own … kind of like the 25 Random Things About You posts that people on MySpace and LiveJournal would trade around back when those were both still actual things!

Anyways, I thought it might be fun this month to share a few kinky things about myself that I certainly would never post to Facebook, and because I’m wordy like that, as you can see you’re getting a lot more than 25 while we’re at it… 😉

  1. I have a very significant boot fetish, which makes autumn both a very exciting and very distracting time of year!
  2. My very first exposure to the world of kink was in downloading pictures of girls in leather and corsets off of Usenet newsgroups on a dial-up modem when I was a teenager.
  3. I think a lot of my insecurities about my desires stem from a single comment made by my father when he told me, “You shouldn’t look at that stuff – people aren’t really into that…”
  4. I’ve gone through phases where I’ve tried to “get rid of” these fantasies, but 20 years later I think I’ve finally come to terms with the idea that fetishes and desires don’t really work like that.
  5. Writing these stories has played a big part in helping me come to terms with my kinky sexuality.
  6. And the fact that other people seem to enjoy them too is icing on the cake.
  7. Not really a kinky thing, but I love cake. Who doesn’t love cake, really?!
  8. Poorly made bondage gear, especially with regards to cheap leather, is a huge pet peeve of mine.
  9. I actually enjoyed what I read of 50 Shades of Greywith all of its flaws, because A) it’s helped to expose a whole lot more people to bondage and kink, and B) it always makes me smile when I see the books on display when I’m walking through my local Target!
  10. Part of me wants to travel to Germany simply because it seems like a leather fetishist’s paradise!
  11. I find fetish fashion, or even a sexy pair of heels paired with a dress or skirt, to be much more alluring than simply being naked.
  12. I’m very much a pain slut, specifically with regards to my nipples. Seriously, you could just about stick something through them and all I’d do is beg for more.
  13. I’ve never actually been to FetishCon, despite it being hosted right here in my backyard in Tampa, FL for the last 9 years.
  14. I love the look on a woman’s face when she’s being gagged.
  15. In real life, I actually get somewhat claustrophobic when I wear my favorite hood – Sinvention’s Sensory Deprivation Hood. Nonetheless, it’s a fear that I really want to get over because the thing is fucking incredible!
  16. As I’ve already written, the idea of cuckolding is both terrifying and also incredibly arousing to me. It’s probably my most dominant kink right now, and a lot of my fantasies often drift over into that world.
  17. Sometimes I have to actively try to not write about cuckolding fantasies because they’re so prominent in my head these days. I can’t tell you how many partial stories I’ve written before I realize, “Oh crap, this is just turning into another cuckolding story…” and make myself either scrap it or drastically turn in another direction.
  18. I try very hard to post a variety of different stories on this site because I don’t want fans of certain kinks to be put off by my focusing more on others.
  19. The first kinky toys that I ever bought were a pair of handcuffs and a purple ball-gag that was too big to fit in my mouth. I ordered them from Autumn’s Sub-Shop, which for a while was a decent place to order beginners gear. I hid them above the ceiling tiles in my bedroom so that my parents wouldn’t find them.
  20. Another very strong fetish of mine is one for leather – shoes, boots, bondage gear … it doesn’t matter. In fact, even seeing the straps of a ladies purse or a leather belt has been known to make my mind wander.
  21. Needles in general terrify me, to the point where I have to look the other way when I’m getting blood drawn and I’ve only ever been able to give blood twice … and yet there’s a dark part of me that wonders if I could get into needle play with nipples if I was warmed up thoroughly with other play first.
  22. One of my life goals is to own a leather sleepsack with all of the bells & whistles.
  23. I often find that the tease is actually more erotic than the act itself.
  24. It’s really important to me that the erotic books that I publish are of a better quality than the slush pile of bad e-books that’s filled the arena by people merely looking to ride the 50 Shades coattails.
  25. And I really hope that over time my readers will notice that difference in quality, and continue to eagerly buy my books even while other erotica has left them sorely disappointed.
  26. A lot of my feelings about overpriced, under-written e-books come from me being disappointed myself in paying $5-10 a book for what turns out to be only a few thousand words that have never even seen a spell-checker.
  27. Even though I hoped that the movie would go a bit farther than it did, I really enjoyed Maggie Gyllenhaal’s performance in The Secretary.
  28. In fact, I’d love to see her in a follow-up where this time she plays a more dominant role – if she’d be up for it, she’s certainly got that sultry look that would serve a soft-spoken, but firm mistress quite well.
  29. One of my best motivators is when I pull up my site in the morning and find that a bunch of people rated my stories overnight. It doesn’t even matter how they rate – just the fact that readers took the time to provide a little feedback is a huge help. (…although the higher votes are certainly nice!)
  30. Very few people actually know about my interest in kink, and of those, most weren’t comfortable with it. Thankfully, the most important person in my life – my partner – is super supportive, so fuck all of those other guys…
  31. I think that every woman on Earth should be issued a Hitachi Magic Wand.
  32. I currently have several different ideas in me for full-length, kinky novels – it’s just that right now writing isn’t my day job and I’d have to stop writing everything else for probably 6 months to a year to bring one together, and I don’t want to do that.
  33. I mean this in the most earnest way possible – if you want me to write more, please buy some of my books. Money and time are currently the only two things holding me back from doing this all day long, and one will help me buy more of the other. I’ve got more ideas than I know what to do with … it’s just that pesky day job that sucks the life out of me and gets in the way of me being able to sit here and write erotica all day long for you! 😉
  34. A lot of kinks that previously were hard limits for me have slowly evolved into new curiosities. (e.g. chastity, heavy discipline, humiliation, cuckolding, piss play…)
  35. Some of the first pay sites that I ever joined were Bedroom Bondage, JB Roper, New York Bound, Shadowplay Imaging, and Shortfuse Video.
  36. I have a hard time trying to imagine exploring and understanding these types of kinky desires before something like the Internet existed. The ability to connect with other people when I lived in a small town that didn’t take kindly to things outside of the norm was invaluable to me.
  37. I started off mostly looking at photos of women being submissive because at the time it was all that I could find, but now aside from the occasional outlier, I much prefer to see women in the dominant role!
  38. Did I mention that I have a boot fetish?
  39. It both amazes and arouses me just how willing random strangers are to post naked pictures of themselves publicly on the Internet.
  40. I’d love to one day offer audio versions of some of my stories and even books, but I really want to find the right voice(s) that will add something new to my work as opposed to just reading it.
  41. Character development is really important to me, but so is the action itself because I’m not interested in writing mommy porn where it takes ten chapters for the first cock to come out so that we can first learn where she went to college and what kind of dressing she prefers with her salad.
  42. I wish that electroplay was safer above the waist because I would love to feel that kind of intensity between my nipples … but I’m also afraid of dying!
  43. Lately I’ve really been into the visual of a woman getting ready to go out – stockings, garter belt, heels, makeup – though admittedly it usually transcends into a cuckolding fantasy where she’s getting ready for someone else… 😉
  44. Another pet peeve of mine is seeing a corset that hasn’t been laced properly. It doesn’t have to be closed all the way, but if the gap is literally a foot wide, you should’ve bought a bigger corset! This is mostly with those cheap, fashion corsets from stores in the mall that are designed for beanpole ladies and not much more. Spend the extra money and buy a real corset – you’ll look and feel so much better, regardless of what size you are.
  45. See, I literally just took a break from making this list to write a new cuckolding story that will be going up on the site next week … that’s hold much of a hold that fetish has on me right now!!!
  46. And so likewise for those of you who aren’t necessarily into cuckolding as much/if at all, please just bear with me until I write something that you do like! As strange as it may sound, I don’t always get to pick what I want to write about on a daily basis – the creative process, or at least my creative process, tends to have a mind of its own and often times I feel like I’m just along to write things down as we go.
  47. Many of the characters I write are based on people that I know. Or amalgams of a variety of personalities and physical traits and other representations.
  48. I love to write dialog. In fact, sometimes I’ll write all of the dialog for a story first and then come back in behind and break it up with additional context, actions, etc… That’s why occasionally you see me just throw caution to the wind and write stories with nothing but dialog sometimes.
  49. I’d hardly written any fiction at all until I starting writing erotica.
  50. Recently I started posting on Reddit under the EroticAuthors subreddit, and it’s been kind of fun to offer up advice for others striving to do the same as I am. If you’re interested in writing this kind of stuff yourself, you might want to think about checking it out!
  51. I find the notion of wearing one’s panties over her garters to be incredibly erotic, despite how undeniably stupid and uncomfortable it actually looks in real life.
  52. I’ve never been overly sensitive to the whole M/mistress and S/slave uppercase/lowercase wars in erotic writing. As long as it reads well, I don’t really care.
  53. I think leather will always be my #1, but I’m starting to see more of the appeal of latex and I’ve been trying to write more stories around it.
  54. Sometimes the things that I write shock me.
  55. I went through a phase a long time ago where I was exclusively interested in pictures and videos of girls kissing. No foreplay, no fucking – just the kissing. 😕
  56. One of my all-time favorite story sites is Gromet’s Plaza. I’ve been a reader for more than a decade, so I was really excited when I was able to start offering some of my own stories there, too!
  57. The earliest erotic story that I can recall reading was one called The Perils of Batgirl 2and I instantly fell in love with all of the graphic descriptions of bondage and self-bondage and lots of struggling! Re-reading it just now after finding that link, I’m fondly reminded that the bondage scene between Amanda and Cheri was just absolutely decadent. Still an exhilarating read nearly 20 years later!
  58. Sometimes I wish that I could just meld my two worlds and not hide that I also write erotica on the side. I think that it will happen eventually – I’m just overly cautious about it right now because I’m not in a good place to deal with any of the ancillary judgment that unfortunately will probably come of it.
  59. I hate noticing that someone didn’t peel that little sticker off of the bottom of their high heels before wearing them for a photo shoot. It’s kind of a buzz kill for me.
  60. If I had to pick one fetish that I just don’t get, it’s probably food play. I just have no desire to feel vanilla pudding between my toes, or clean frosting off of a pair of high heels, and frankly, it kind of seems like a waste of perfectly good desserts that I could be eating instead of stepping in!
  61. Even though right now I’m struggling just to get #3 started, I’ve got about the next 10 books mapped out that I want to publish through 2014.
  62. There are few things sexier to me than a woman in her wedding dress, and I don’t mean that sentimentally … of course a woman should look hot on the most important day of her life!
  63. Although I honestly get ideas from all over the place, I’m more active on Tumblr these days because a surprising number of my stories start from coming across a single image that sparks a kinky, new adventure in my head for the subject of the picture.
  64. Good dialog from a dominant to her submissive is a huge turn-on for me, I think because it often times sounds so unbelievably phony in 99% of the bondage videos that you see online.
  65. I’d much rather have a soft spoken, yet firm mistress than one who technically knows all of the key words, but shouts their delivery like she’s calling someone down to be the next contestant on The Price Is Right!
  66. I’m also a sucker for facial expressions without any words at all … a snicker, a small smile, even chuckling under her breath can speak volumes about how she sees the sub before her…
  67. The first time I saw a really brutal bondage scene, I wasn’t sure what to think of it. The girl was balancing on her toes with a beam between her legs, and then one by one her legs were tied parallel to the beam so that her entire weight was supported by her pussy. There was a lot of crying and screaming, and it both bothered and greatly turned me on at the same time.
  68. Only seldom do I write male dominants, mainly because that’s just not what I’m into.
  69. If I do write a male dominant, it’s typically still twisted in a way where the woman being submissive also dominates another male at the same time, like this.
  70. One of my earliest exposures to bondage in the mainstream was that scene in Hot Shots: Part Deux where the girl ties Topper to the bed with her scarves ... and eventually a third hand appears to help tie the knot … and she also produces a can of oil to help with the squeaky bed! Well, even though it was all done in parody, I watched that scene over and over again so many times…
  71. I was also a big fan of Exit to EdenA femdom Dana Delany may very well have been my very first kinky crush with that chillingly comforting dialog, “It’s ok to enjoy it – you’re allowed here.” 
  72. The very first erotic story that I actually started writing was Playing Dress-Up at the Mall, however I didn’t actually finish and publish it until three years after I launched this site. It was originally going to be a chapter story with the next parts taking its participants to an adult toy store, then a movie theater, and then finally home to play some more, but ultimately I decided to trim it back and just end it in the mall where it started.
  73. I don’t read nearly as much erotica as I used to, presumably because I spend so much time these days writing it myself.
  74. I also think that I mostly write nowadays because I’ve had an increasingly hard time finding new stories that I enjoy, so when I remember that I can just write them myself any way that I want, I’d rather just do that instead.
  75. I probably have enough “research materials” on my computer to warrant their own hard drive!
  76. I think I’ve actually lost my collection of kinky photos and videos and stories twice now – both after hard drive crashes – which is kind of a bummer when I consider that a lot of the early photo sets that I collected were by sites that long ago went out of business.
  77. I haven’t smoked in more than a decade and I can barely even tolerate the smell anymore, yet I can still see the sex appeal of a woman in high class lingerie taking a long drag off a slim, white cigarette in her hand.
  78. Lately I’ve been more interested in shoe fetishes around high end, designer shoes … partially for the quality, and I think partially from the financial domination factor of the thought of spending $600+ on a pair of shoes to go on a woman’s feet.
  79. As much as I know in the real world that simply wearing an anklet in no way signifies that a woman cuckolds her man, I still love the concept just the same.
  80. If I were to suddenly fall into a lot of money, for the first couple of months there would be several bondage and fetish shops that would be very busy filling orders for me! 😀
  81. I’d certainly be happy even with a modestly successful career in writing what you read here, although I can’t help but admit that after noting how E.L. James has made over $100 million off of her 50 Shades trilogy, my mind does occasionally wander to thoughts about a slightly bigger house with a waterfront view and a very dedicated open space for playtime!
  82. In fact, I’ve already started writing about said mansion and said play space, which you’ll be able to read (hopefully) in a new novella that should be coming out next month…
  83. I currently own eight different pairs of nipple clamps, and I’m always on the look out for something new and even more vicious!
  84. My favorite pair right now is actually one that I modified by taking these and ordering an extra set, then replacing the smooth plastic strip on the bottom with another strip of spikes from the second pair so that they now pinch from both sides equally … yummy!
  85. I used to be really into erotic hypnosis because I liked to hear the audio narration by a female voice that sounded more genuine than I had been finding at the time.
  86. Now I’m equally amazed that you can find amateurs eager to share their voices and even their orgasms in a free public forum like GoneWildAudio on Reddit!
  87. As my newfound interest in cuckolding grows, I’ve noticed my interests in humiliation rising hand in hand.
  88. I’m constantly wondering what the next big thing is going to be that piques my interest sexually, and even though I still have a hard time imagining it, I just tell myself that I never would’ve imagined most of the other ones before they showed their heads, either.
  89. I apologize if I’ve managed to duplicate anything throughout the course of this list. I’m trying my best to go back and check when I think I might be repeating myself, but 101 things is a lot of things!
  90. The whole mean domme/nice domme is often a struggle for me because even though I started off exclusively liking the nice ones and actually even considering the mean ones to be a turn-off, I’m kinda digging the cruel bitches these days and have to actively remind myself sometimes that a lot of my readers still enjoy the nice girls, too.
  91. There’s a part of me that would love to write kinky scripts for adult film producers, but the videos that I’ve watched tell me that they don’t really want them.
  92. I think French is the sexiest spoken language, while German is the scariest in terms of BDSM … and I wouldn’t mind learning both!
  93. It consistently blows my mind to look through my website stats and see the far reaches of the world where people read my stories … Russia, South Africa, India, Thailand – seriously?! That’s AWESOME!!!
  94. Likewise, I’m somewhat concerned about the recent talks of mandatory filtering of adult content in the UK because my second largest readership (next to the US) is from England and making it harder for readers there to enjoy my work would really suck.
  95. I think it’s important for adult webmasters to take basic steps to segregate their content from the general population (i.e. adult splash pages, inclusion in filtering software like NetNanny), but from there I think the onus lies on the adults in the house to protect their own children from adult content until they’re ready to see it.
  96. At one point I considered adding a Toy Review section to the website where I would review and share pictures of my favorite gear, specifically focusing on some of the higher quality toys because most bloggers only ever review entry-level (or below) gear from affiliate sites and *I* would read a site like that … but now I’m focusing on just the fiction for the time being. Maybe some day!
  97. It drives me nuts when people make these huge posts with tons of images on Tumblr because sometimes I only want to reblog one in the middle and there’s just no good way that I know of to remove all of the others.
  98. It’s really hard for me to pick “favorites” because a lot of the type I kind of like whatever I just finished the best, but I do have a special place in my heart for Enjoying Some Quiet Time with Her Slave, Her Heels Show No Mercyand A Special Fitting because I had a very personal connection with each story while I was writing them.
  99. I’m really excited about the things that I have planned for 2014, and I hope that you will be, too.
  100. And last but not least, despite being a writer of many words, I really can’t describe just how much I appreciate all of you who read my stories and buy my books and are giving me a chance to do what I want to do for a living.
  101. But seriously, boy do I love me some boots… 😉